Mom-and-Pop-Online-Stuff.com: Helping Your Child Overcome Violence
Violence is one of the oldest emotions of mankind. It dates back to the story of Cain and Abel. Why does man feel violence
brings about workable solutions when he has proved over and over that it does not?
Violence stems from one’s inability to think and act logically and responsibly. Leading factors in promoting and maintaining violence are anger, greed and revenge. This article will give specific ways you can help your child overcome violence within himself and others.
Wikipedia defines violence is “the use of physical force to apply a state to others contrary to their wishes.” That state can be physical, mental, emotional or a combination thereof. Ask yourself, “Do I enjoy making other people unhappy? Do I intentionally do things to cause mental or physical anguish? ” If the answer is Yes to either of these questions, ask a third one. “Do I receive pleasure in doing it?” This is a self-evaluation process one should give serious thought to. Evil thoughts and actions, whether overt or covert, can be contributors to your child’s violent behavior.
The first years of a child’s life are dominated by thoughts and actions of parents. His foundation is molded and shaped by principles that you set-up to guide and govern him. Lasting impressions are made more by observation than words. The old “do as I say, but not as I do” simply does not work. All behavior is learned inclusive of violent behavior.
Steps To Help Your Child Avoid Bullying and Overcoming Violence:
1. Surround your child with love, affection and proper care.
2. Spend time with your child. Let him know from infancy how important he is to you.
3. Give reassurance in challenging and difficult times.
4. Give counseling and correction to violent attitudes and behavior.
5. Evaluate each child on his own values and merits without comparing him to others.
6. Develop a relationship of trust, respect and obedience with your child.
7. Promise only what you can deliver.
8. Support your child with honest answers about yourself in times of death and grief.
9. Be proactive in responding to abrupt changes in your child’s behavior.
10. Never lie to your child.
11. Set clear standards and perimeters for your child’s behavior and be consistent in enforcing them.
12. Promote peaceful resolutions by practicing what you preach.
13. Limit your child’s exposure to violence via TV, computer and video games.
14. Help promote safety through community involvement in programs that help to overcome violence.
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